Thanks for reading the latest blog post by Jennifer Horton at Xpress Xcellence!  Let’s talk about Synchronicity…

I am fascinated by synchronicity because it encompasses so many mysterious aspects of life and how the universe works in response to our actions.  According to Wikipedia Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events that are apparently casually unrelated occurring together in a meaningful manner.  To count as synchronicity, the events should be unlikely to occur together by chance.  Carl Jung was the first to identify, describe, and write about the phenomenon of synchronicity and its role in our lives in the 1920s.

Deepak Chopra, in his book “The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire: Harnessing the Power of Coincidence”, explains the process of synchronicity as “being part of the cause-effect cycle”.  When we think we are experiencing a “coincidence” (which don’t happen by accident) it is in reality a series of complex events that, consciously or unconsciously, we have created in our lives in short or long periods of time.  Instead of casually noticing them as a random occurrence, he recommends to pay attention and be very alert about these so-called coincidences because they will show us clues about paths that we have chosen.  By changing our actions we will change our synchronicity for future “coincidences”.

I recently had a very overt run in of my own with synchronicity. For those of you who don’t know me, I have very short blond hair that is sort of a pixie cut. Well, I got tired of the extreme bleaching so I went to the hair salon to color it closer to my own natural light brown color.  After 5 hours in the chair, I had tones of orange, blond and a big chunk of ash in the back of my head.  Thankfully, I am not one of those women who is so attached to her hair that it’s worth crying over and getting upset.  I did, of course, wonder, “what purpose does this situation have in my life?” as I believe that we are responsible for ALL, yes ALL, of our results.  My responsibility in this situation was to look at what I needed to learn, grow from, and pay greater attention to.   In the moment, I wasn’t sure about the answer, however, I was clear about the questions I needed to reflect upon.

As I left the salon parking lot, I posted a tweet asking for a “color correction wizard” that could fix my hair.  To my surprise, I got an answer right away from a local salon.  I have learned to pay attention to the signs and follow my heart when it feels right.  With no logical reason for following up on this tip, I took immediate action, made the call the very next day and went to the consultation.  It was an easy fix for this pro, and she snapped my hair color right back into shape, just as I wanted.  A few days later, I received a new tweet from the salon owners (husband and wife entrepreneurs) that they had visited my website Xpress Xcellence and were interested in learning more about coaching with me.  Not only did my “bad hair day” experience lead me to an amazing new colorist, but also 2 new potential clients.  I got my hair fixed and they get the coaching they need to support their career and business transitions.  Win!  Win!

This was not a coincidence; this was the result of a series of events that came to fulfill several needs for myself and for this lovely couple.  What would have happened if I had not let go of the surface appearance of my hair looking like a train wreck and stayed in a grateful, open, allowing state?  I was looking for what was GOOD about this situation, and what came to me (and the salon owners) was a winning situation.

Another example involves my friend in Miami, who is a HUGE tennis fan.  Last year, during the Sony Ericsson Tennis Open, she decided to volunteer because she was unemployed, had the time and wanted to help. Her volunteer term lasted for the duration of the tournament and amazingly enough every time she wasn’t working, box and suite tickets would appear like “magic”.  She would bump into someone on the food court that gave her a box seat, her tennis coach would call and offer one, she even found a suite ticket on the floor!  These are not accidents!  This was an outcome of her intense desire to enjoy her favorite sport without attachment to the outcome.  Of course she wanted great seats, but getting great seats was not her primary reason for volunteering.  Her CAUSE was to share, open herself, allow and enjoy.  The EFFECT was that amazing seats showed up for her everywhere!  Since then she has practiced letting go and owning her own energy help her win prizes, meet famous people, win cash, etc.

Always remember, YOU ARE THE CAUSE of everything in your life.  The outer results are the EFFECT.  Become cognizant of when you are reversing the equation and holding yourself apart from the results you desire by expecting something on the outside to change first!  Nothing needs to shift on the outside, you need to shift on the inside!

How can you harness more positive synchronicity?

1)    Pay attention to your experiences.

2)    Pay attention to the perception (or the meaning) you give to it.  Are you making judgments, or decisions about the situation or person?  What would happen if you let go of that, or simply shifted to look at the opposite point of view?

3)    Access what you feel in your heart.  Become aware of what you are feeling.  Sit with it.

4)    Ask more empowering questions.  For example, “what might I have to learn from this person, or situation if I wanted to and stayed open to listen?”

Everything is a blessing.  Everything is good.  Everything is God.

Enjoy the transformation that occurs when you create the space for awareness and the blessings, the good, and the God become your life experience.